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A Grief Mindset: 6 Beliefs That Make Managing Loss A Bit Easier
I grew up in a secular household. The Bible sat on the shelf, but no one really read it. My father was raised Catholic (“in Catholic school as vicious as Roman rule”) and chose not to raise me and my two brothers as such. My mother’s father was Catholic, but he chose the same for her. It wasn’t until two years before she died that she decided to invest formally in the faith and be baptized and confirmed.
When she died, I started my search for Truth in a way that I never had before. What I realized is that, just as religion shapes the mind of a believer, what a person takes for truth in a secular society or family is a product of secularism itself. Individuals that abide by the “flesh and bones” belief often have trouble reconciling mortality. Because it would seem to point (whether for our mind’s survival and comfort or for Truth itself) that there is something more out there.
We all have an innate human desire to understand what this experience means. What is life for? What shapes our experiences? Is there life after death? There is no greater time to try and answer these questions than when faced with deep grief.
