If You Hate Going To Work, Read This

“Love and work are the cornerstones of humanness.”

That these are the only things that matter. Call it entitled. Call it narcissistic. Call it whatever you please. If you don’t at least partially buy into this view of the world, I urge you to stop reading now. The thesis of this entire post stems from this belief.

Step #1: Recognize And Combat The Forces At Play.

There is something that’s made you believe you shouldn’t try to change. That you shouldn’t do something new. That’s kept you from switching paths already. What is it?

Inertia.

Being who you are, doing what you’re doing already, is easy. Very easy. You have learned habits and ingrained patterns of thinking and behaving that drive almost everything you do. Whether you like your job or not, it’s easy to wake up and keep going.

“We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing.”

We stay in jobs when they’re comfortable. But just because something’s comfortable, doesn’t mean it’s serving you.

  • Is this engagement getting me closer to doing something I’m proud of or will enjoy? (i.e. helping you build up the you the money, skills, and relationships you’ll need.)

Justification.

I genuinely convinced myself on multiple occasions at my last engagement:

  • “If I can’t commit myself to this, I won’t be able to commit myself to anything.”
  • “Everyone thinks I’m good at this.”
  • “My resume can’t have a gap on it.”

Push vs. Pull.

There is a lot of talk lately about “hustle” and “hard work” thanks be to Gary Vaynerchuk and the rest of the “thought leader” crew. Working hard is a key element in success, certainly. As the saying goes:

Step #2: Pay Attention — Get To Know Yourself Better.

No one else can tell when you’re actually “all in.” No one else can tell you what you should be, do, or have. No one else can tell you when it’s the right time to start, stop, or change. That’s your job.

Only you can know when you’re putting in 80% effort.

When you’re in something — a job, a game, relationship, or conversation — you are either fully present and committed or you aren’t. This is binary.

You have a unique purpose.

I have a lot of qualms with the education system, but perhaps the greatest is that we push students to choose majors and career paths based on expected future value calculations.

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You have natural talents, inclinations, and filters. Find them.

Meg Jay, Ph.D, calls these our:

“UNTHOUGHT KNOWNS.”

The things that are already inside of you that you once actively understood but forgot about yourself. The things that the world stripped from you. The things you enjoy doing. That you are good at. That add value to the world. That others praise you for.

  • What did I like to do as a child?
  • What do I do just for the sake of enjoyment?
  • How do I process the world around me?
  • I even received honors in college for doing it well.
  • I even created a daily habit of doing it in 2016.
  • I was paid for it a few times in (and right after) college.
  • I’ve had people over the years tell me — you should do that thing as a job.
  • It’s the thing I do when I have a little extra time on my hands.

Step #3: Take Some Action.

What’s often missed with “The Law of Attraction” is that you have to line your thoughts, words, and actions. I don’t deny that thought is a powerful tool, but it is the weakest tool between the triad. It is only the start; it is not the end.

Sometimes you have to “drop out” to drop in.

There is all of this talk about starting a “side hustle” before leaving your corporate job. Getting your toes wet. Identifying the next platform to jump to. Testing the efficacy of your business plan.

Find something to go a mile deep in.

As Matthew McConaughey’s character in True Detective said,

“Life’s barely long enough to get good at one thing. So be careful what you get good at.”

You’re becoming what you’re spending your time on and who you’re spending it with. The podcasts you listen to. The books you read. The TV shows you watch. What’s on your Instagram feed. Your friends. Your coworkers. How you spend your evenings.

Take action on the grand strategy.

Grand strategy, according to military strategist, Liddell Hart, is the way in which resources should be banded together to reach some political objective in war.

Now… the end is not yet written.

I could be wrong. I could be just another Millennial preaching about finding purpose in the world. About doing good. About making stuff that matters.

Thinking deeply about how to make myself and the world a little better. & writing about creators mostly | email: kate@onedayent.com

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